The everlasting argument among people that have nothing better to do…who has it toughest? Moms who work, or stay at home moms?
Who cares? Not me. I know what I think about my own day, and I know what I thought when I was working. You just can’t compare. Some days, I am home and think about how nice it would be to have lunch with friends, or at least grown ups who won’t throw their meal on the floor to signify completion. Or to go to the bathroom when I choose to, without someone following me. I could go on. Yet, a mom at work is thinking how nice it would be to be at a playground, or to, possibly, if you’re very lucky, take a little snooze when the children sleep, or to just be spending the day with her kids. Then I remember that ‘lucky and free’ working mom has to be up at the crack of dawn to make sure everyone is ready to leave the house, then she gets to work and adds another ‘boss’ to her day, and she probably misses her kids like crazy. Then she’ll remember SAH mom has probably been vomited on, pooped on, screamed at, had several tantrums thrown, felt isolated, etc.
I laugh when I visit certain parenting forums and read the fights. “You’re home all day, you don’t have a job” or “You sit in front of a computer, I wish I could do that at home!” Ladies, please! Who really cares? There is absolutely no way to win this battle. There is always something about the opposite arrangement that you will find attractive. Put yourself in it for a few days, and maybe you’ll change your mind, or, at the very least, develop an appreciation for another point of view. Being a mom is a tough job. The mom I’m truly envious of is the one who doesn’t think it is!
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Amen! I also get sick of the fights. Why can’t moms just agree to disagree and move on. I don’t have time to waste my energy on fighting with other moms. It’s insane.
Here, here! Tell it like it is!
but there are also those mom’s who don’t have a choice to stay home who rather work.
There are alot of mom’s who chooses to stay home instead of working, while there are alot of mom’s who chooses to work instead of staying home…yes we all agree with that. there also some mom’s who has no choice but to work to survive if they are single.
But then there are the mom’s who has no choice to stay home due to a life-threatening illness child who requires the 24/7 care that the governement doesn’t want to help pay for the care by others. They don’t even want to pay the parent who gives up the job to care for their child and has no other income resource. Has to even give up the child support to make sure your child has medicaid or/and SSI. But the money is greatly needed just to survive.
We live in a world where our govenment says one thing and does something else. Contradictions working harder then reality.
So no matter what, NO ONE wins!!
Yeah…maybe your right…no one really cares!
Dee – no doubt there are more circumstances than I could name here…Just ranting a bit, as I have heard quite a few times over the years that my life is like a vacation simply because I am home with the girls. My knee jerk reaction is get all defensive, but why fight about it?
I just never really understand what anyone thinks they’d gain for trying to fight someone on how tough their day is in comparison. That is not to say that there aren’t some very difficult situations…
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