I hate writing thank you cards. More than I hate most other things. Does this make me ungrateful? No way…I truly appreciate gifts (and would love more, so feel free…) but I never got the need for the formality of a thank you card. I would so much rather hear someone say thanks and see them enjoy the gift than get a card with “Insert gift here” and the same words that every other gift bearer got…
Yes, I know there are exceptions…my friends, in particular…how the heck do they come up with something original to write in every card? They should be writing this blog, not me. I love getting them…everyone loves mail, but I would never get upset if I didn’t receive a card. The only exception? If I mailed a gift and didn’t deliver in personally…and ONLY because I want to know they received it. An email or a phone call would totally suffice.
I’ve been part of numerous conversations and arguments about this. I’ve been told I have no manners because I hate sending them. I’ve heard people say they will ‘Not be sending a gift next time’ because the recipient didn’t send a thank you note. Seriously? Is that why you bought the gift? To get the crappy note back? I’ll admit…cards to these grouches have been known to get lost in the mail.
One of my good friends gave a me a gift when my youngest was born, and with it, she said “Please don’t send a thank you card.” How awesome is she? I’m sure she said it while thinking “this woman is a neanderthal who can’t get on board with proper manners” but who cares? One less card to stress about.
Did I mention I DO send them? I just hate it. I struggle to find the words that are different from the last card…it takes me forever.
So friends…family…know this…I read your cards. I love getting them. I will never, I repeat NEVER, get upset if I don’t get a card from you. Save the stamp. I don’t care if every other party goer got one…you do not need to send me one. Did you say thank you? Do I see you or your child enjoy my gift? Well then, you’re welcome!
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Like at my sons birthday party I just told EVERYONE there thanks for coming, the gift, etc. To skip the TY cards.
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I too don’t send enough Thank You’s. I feel that if we open the present in the presence of someone, that is the time to say ‘Thank You’! If someone sends us something, I try to send a note, but most of the time a call or an e-mail with a picture of my boys using/wearing the gift is what we do…..At the boys parties, I usually print out a thank you for coming & sharing my birthday with me & attach a picture of my son that they take with them at the end.
The only time I really do like to get a thank you is when we have been to a big wedding. I’m always afraid our gift has been lost in the shuffle and do want to make sure the Bride and Groom go the gift I spent so much time wrapping. I HATE wrapping!! lol
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Pretty much the same as the above. Don’t think I’ve ever sent out thank you cards.
We say thank you on receiving the gifts???
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I can go back and forth on sending thank you notes. Ultimately writing the cards I find to be tedious at best; however I do like the human contact, the indivuduallity, the thoughtfulness, the knowing it was recieved and the respect for others and their time and money. If you are giving your “friend” a gift in person, then not such a big deal; or a little kids b-day party. When you have recieved a gift from someone that wasn’t in person, or an elderly person, in general, I find them to to be very appropriate. I also find it teaches kids manners and responsibility. I am ashamed to say I learned this a little later than I would have liked. I also like to make someone feel special for being so thoughtful to me. One way of making it fun for me is to order photo cards from Shutterfly. One last comment on the subject, I would prefer to not recieve anything if it is preprinted on the computer, including signature. I find this to be a waste of time and a phone call probably would have sufficed.
I too dread thank you cards. I always get writer’s block and they seem so impersonal when I reread them. I would much rather say thank you with an email or phone call.
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It took my 10 months to send out my wedding thank you cards.
*blushes* I am so bad at it.
I did make Little J sign thank you cards to his school friends for coming to his bday party. Need to make a good impression as we will be hanging with these people for the next couple of years.
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Ha! I love stationary so any chance I get to send a personalized note, I’m excited! for! I agree that sometimes they are not necessary – but thank you cards after weddings are a must – I once went to a wedding and they never sent thank you cards… not too classy!
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